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013. Why Your Suffering Isn’t As Unique As You Think – Break Free From Yes-But-Tology and Impossible Problems

Why do some people always have an excuse for why nothing will work? In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch explore Dr. Stef Huber’s article on Yes-But-ology—the tendency to reject advice and frame problems as unsolvable.
Huber explains how this mindset fuels self-pity and avoids responsibility. She shares strategies to handle Yes-But-ers—whether by steering them toward solutions or stepping away. The episode also touches on reactance theory and why some prefer to stay stuck.
Dave and Zoe discuss how to recognize this pattern in ourselves and shift toward action. Tune in for insights on overcoming resistance and taking ownership of change!
🎧 Listen now and stop getting stuck in the "Yes, but..." loop!
Read the full, original article here on Medium. Or visit Dr. Huber's website on www.stefhuber.com
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012. The Myth of ‘Later’ – Why Waiting for the Perfect Time Can Cost You Everything

Why do we keep telling ourselves that happiness is just around the corner? In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch unpack Dr. Stef Huber's powerful article, "The Myth of 'Later'," which challenges the dangerous habit of postponing joy for an imagined perfect future.
Huber argues that by constantly waiting for the “right moment,” we rob ourselves of opportunities and happiness in the here and now. Using quotes from Steve Jobs and Jordan Peterson, she emphasizes the importance of setting priorities and living intentionally, rather than letting life slip by while chasing an undefined future.
Dave and Zoe discuss how the illusion of “later” keeps us from truly engaging with the present. How can we break free from this mindset and start embracing the moment? Huber suggests taking small, deliberate steps to create a fulfilling life today, instead of getting lost in distant dreams.
The episode also dives into Huber’s personal journey of designing a meaningful life, offering inspiration for listeners to seek their own version of happiness. How can you stop waiting and start living?
Tune in to discover the power of now, learn how to prioritize what truly matters, and find out how to build a life of purpose without waiting for “later.” Inspiration and practical tips included!
🎧 Listen now and stop postponing your happiness!
Read the full, original article here on Medium.
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011. A Formula For Evil: Or What John Wick Teaches Us About Good And Bad

What if the line between good and evil isn’t as clear as we like to think? In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch unravel Dr. Stef Huber's captivating article on the duality of human nature, inspired by the morally complex character of John Wick. Are we born good or evil, or is it more complicated than that?
Drawing on philosophical and psychological perspectives, Dr. Huber explores how evil actions often arise from a mix of neurobiological, personal, and social influences. She argues that the potential for darkness exists in all of us, but true morality lies in recognizing and mastering these inner shadows.
Dave and Zoe dig deep into this provocative idea, challenging the notion that morality is about suppressing our darker impulses. Instead, they explore how confronting and understanding them can lead to greater integrity and growth. What happens when we face our inner “monsters” instead of denying them? And how does this shape our understanding of good and evil?
Tune in to confront the complexities of human nature, learn how to embrace your own shadows, and discover how accepting this duality can lead to deeper empathy and personal transformation. Inspiration and practical insights included!
Read the original, full article here on Medium.
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010. The Quick And Dirty Secret to Living a Purposeful Life

In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch explore Dr. Stef Huber's inspiring article on finding meaning and purpose through conscious micro-decisions in everyday life. Rather than waiting for a grand revelation, Huber argues that it's the countless small choices we make daily that shape our lives and define our values.
Using the example of Finn Lehmann, the article illustrates how mindless habits can undermine our core beliefs. Huber encourages readers to challenge their "autopilot" mode and make decisions that positively impact their well-being and the world around them. Every conscious choice is an opportunity to do good, gradually accumulating into a life filled with purpose and meaning.
Dave and Zoe discuss the empowering idea of taking control of our lives through mindful choices. How can we break free from habitual behaviors and start making decisions that truly align with our values? And what impact can this have on our sense of purpose and fulfillment?
Tune in to learn how small, intentional actions can create a life of meaning, discover practical ways to become more mindful in daily decisions, and get inspired to actively shape the world around you. Inspiration and actionable insights included!
🎧 Listen now and start creating purpose one choice at a time!
Read Stef's full, original Medium article here.
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009. Stop Lying to Yourself: The Subtle, But Detrimental Trap of White Lies

In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch explore Dr. Stef Huber's unpleasant article on the subtle yet damaging nature of white lies. Often told to spare feelings or avoid conflict, these small untruths can ultimately distance us from our own authenticity.
Huber argues that white lies not only deceive others but also lead to self-deception, causing us to deny our needs and preventing genuine connections. The article challenges us to view honesty as a strategy for personal growth and to live a life aligned with our values.
Dave and Zoe discuss the liberating yet challenging journey of speaking and living our truth. How can we practice radical honesty without being hurtful? And how can embracing truthfulness help us set boundaries, build self-confidence, and lead a more fulfilling life?
Tune in to explore the psychology behind white lies, discover the power of living authentically, and learn how to cultivate deeper, more honest relationships. Inspiration and practical tips included!
🎧 Listen now and start living your truth!
Read the original Medium article here.
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008. Why True Love Begins After You’ve Fixed Yourself

In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch dive into Dr. Stef Huber's article exploring the motivations behind relationships and how they can evolve over time. Analyzing relationships through three stages – compensation for weaknesses, realization of potential, and ultimately, the co-creation of meaning – Huber provides a deep psychological perspective on partnerships.
Drawing on the theories of Freud, Adler, and Jung, the article examines how our subconscious motivations shape our connections with others. Huber argues that true love begins only when both partners have worked on themselves and come together as whole individuals. Instead of seeking validation from each other, relationships should be a space for growth and shared purpose.
Dave and Zoe discuss the transformative idea of shifting from dependence to collaboration, exploring how couples can move beyond surface-level interactions to create deeper, more meaningful connections. How can we reflect on our own relationships and identify the level at which we are connecting with our partners? And what steps can we take to build a relationship rooted in growth and shared meaning?
Tune in to explore the psychology of love, discover how to elevate your relationships, and learn how to co-create a more meaningful life together. Inspiration and practical tips included!
🎧 Listen now and start redefining love and connection!
Read the original Medium article here.
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007. Can We All Become Batman? Breaking the Mold: Personality Might Not Be as Fixed as We Think

In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch explore Dr. Stef Huber's eye-opening article on the fluid nature of personality. Challenging the notion that our traits are fixed, Huber argues that personality can evolve throughout our lives.
Drawing on the Big Five personality traits, the article emphasizes that while these dimensions provide a framework, they shouldn't confine us. Citing research that shows personality is malleable, Huber suggests that through conscious effort, we can develop the qualities we aspire to have.
Dave and Zoe discuss the liberating idea of actively shaping our personalities, just as we would work on physical fitness. What would happen if we let go of self-imposed labels and embraced the potential for growth and change? And how can we start taking actionable steps to become the person we truly want to be?
Tune in to learn about the psychology of personality, discover strategies for personal growth, and find out how to break free from limiting self-definitions. Inspiration and practical tips included!
🎧 Listen now and start redefining yourself!
Read the original Medium article here.
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006. How to Mind-F*ck Yourself: Seeing the Extraordinary in the Everyday

In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch delve into Dr. Stef Huber's evocative article on how our mindset shapes our perception of the world. The article explores the transformative power of anticipation, or "Vorfreude," and how it can change the way we experience our daily surroundings.
Dr. Huber argues that happiness and suffering are largely a matter of perspective. Regardless of our circumstances, we have the power to choose how we interpret the world around us. By consciously shaping our inner experiences, we can alter our perception of the outer world.
Dave and Zoe reflect on this empowering idea: that it’s ultimately up to us whether we see life as dull and gray or vibrant and full of possibility. How can we cultivate a mindset that brings more joy and meaning into our lives? And what practical steps can we take to shift our perspective, even in challenging situations?
Tune in to explore the psychology of perception, discover the magic of anticipation, and learn how to create a more fulfilling reality from the inside out. Inspiration and practical tips included!
🎧 Listen now and start seeing the world differently!
Read the original Medium article here.
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005. Is Shouting Necessary? An Akward Debate on Something That Shouldn’t Happen, Should It?

In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch explore Dr. Stef Huber's infuriating article on the causes and consequences of anger in everyday life. Using relatable personal anecdotes – from a heated argument at the airport to a tense encounter on the Berlin Ringbahn – Huber unpacks the complex dynamics of anger as a manifestation of power struggles.
Drawing on Alfred Adler's theories, the article questions whether anger is a necessary evil to drive change or simply a destructive cycle fueled by underlying power dynamics. Huber delves into the subtle triggers behind seemingly trivial outbursts and challenges readers to reflect on their own experiences with anger.
Dave and Zoe discuss the thought-provoking idea that breaking the cycle of anger involves stepping away from power struggles and choosing a different response. How can we recognize the psychological mechanisms behind our anger, and how can we respond more mindfully to maintain healthier relationships?
Tune in to learn about the root causes of anger, discover practical strategies to break free from destructive patterns, and find out how to cultivate a more peaceful state of mind. Inspiration and actionable insights included!
🎧 Listen now and start breaking the cycle of anger!
Read the original Medium article here.
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004. Half there. Deep Work. Shallow Lives. Limbo. Barbells.

In this episode, Dave Flenagan and Zoe Hirsch dive into Dr. Stef Huber's compelling article on Medium, which explores the concept of the "Limbo" – a state of half-hearted presence that affects both our work and personal lives.
Dr. Huber argues that we often find ourselves stuck in superficial activities, preventing us from fully engaging with our work, relationships, and personal passions. Drawing on Cal Newport’s distinction between "Shallow Work" and "Deep Work," the article highlights the difference between scattered, distracted tasks and focused, meaningful engagement.
Dave and Zoe discuss how constant interruptions and digital distractions keep us from immersing ourselves in the present moment, leading to feelings of dissatisfaction and disconnection. Huber challenges readers to reflect on how much time they've already spent in the "Limbo" and encourages them to pursue a more conscious and fulfilling way of living.
The episode also touches on related topics, such as AI, blockchain, self-improvement, and productivity, offering a holistic view of how to reclaim focus and lead a more intentional life.
How can we break free from this state of shallow living? And what practical steps can we take to cultivate deeper connections and more meaningful work?
Tune in to learn how to escape the Limbo, embrace deep engagement, and live a more present and purposeful life. Inspiration and practical tips included!
🎧 Listen now and start living more deeply!
Read the original Medium article here
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